Fear of the unknown
I have always wondered what makes a person confident rather why some people (like me???)lack self confidence. A person low on self confidence is so because s/he thinks what s/he's capable of is minimal compared to what other people are capable of even though currently not many of them might have achieved what this person has. On the other hand an over confident person thinks s/he can do anything in the world even though s/he wouldn't even be capable of earning 2 square meals a day. It's all about the individual's perception of the other people in the planet. Since each one of us know ourselves very well , some feel that what they know should be common to everyone. They make it the base for all humankind. For the qualities they perceive others to posess can never be lower than that because what they have would've become common to them. On the other hand there are people for whom even a small thing that every individual posesses , s/he'll think to be unique to him/her. That s/he is the only blessed one on the planet.That s/he's an example for everyone else. That all that's not known to him/her can't be larger than him/her.
Either ways it's a recipe for disaster. Over confident person tends to underestimate the "opponent" in every walk of life and tends to be less prepared, while the one lacking confidence tends to over estimate the "opponent" and not take chances at all eventhough s/he might be able to win without any effort. One might argue that the over confident person might be able to come out of the situation using his intelligence but as the old saying goes "Empty vessels make more noise". Similarly the person lacking confidence might have prepared a thousand times more than what's required but think about it . Will his/her psychology permit him/her to take that one chance ? We don't live in an ideal world. It's a first hand experience that it's impossible to get rid of the either(I have experienced only one :D)!!!!!!!!!!
Love - Hate Relationship
I used to think it happens only in novels and movies, but to experience something similar in real life made me dumbstruck. It's amazing how people come to like each other and people who like each other come to hate more than their worst enemy just because of one thing which might not even last a few hours. I am not sure how many of us have experienced this first hand but this is what I have seen happen a couple of times (not to me). 2 totally different people, go through a tough time together and end up being together for life . But for that tough situation, they wouldn't have been together even if they were to come across each other regularly. Similarly if two people like each other and things are going good, one silly thing happens and they start hating each other so much that they don't want to see each other's face again or even talk to each other. Even I wasn't able to believe such things until I saw it happening to people around me. I wish I knew what these situations had in them that would bring about such a drastic change. And it's not like you can control or prevent such things. You get to know about them only when they have done their bit. All I can say is someone up there is decitating what should happen to people second by second.
Uncertainty
I am at a point where I am in a dilema. The decision that I am going to take will decide the my fate for many years to come. Not that I won't be able to change things later but I would have lost a lot of precious time to mention the least. Why is life so uncertain? Can anyone predict it perfectly ? Can anyone predict , for example where s/he is going to be an hour from now ? What s/he is going to be doing a minute from now ? I would say it is impossible. A lot of things can happen in the nick of time. One might be dead with some kind of freaky attack the very next second, another person suffering from a malign cancer would live to die of old age even when the docs have given them 3 months tops. I cannot be sure of being able to finish this post and publish it. I could stop blogging and get busy with something else this very moment and never come back again to it. It's a paradox. If people knew what would happen in the future, they would try and change the way things are happening to prevent all the undesireable events that they've forseen which again would lead to an uncertain future. I sometimes wonder if this is what keeps people going. The urge to know what's next. To see what awaits them in the times to come. To see how different things turn out from what they'd planned. Nonetheless some of us are happy of having achieved 50% of what we'd planned and the rest crib about the rest 50% we couldn't. But all of us get busy planing for the future hoping this time we will achieve a full hundred percent even though we know for sure it isn't going to happen. Even a total pessimist (like me) plans and would have hope in one little corner of his heart :)
